Hi, I’m Jack.

I am obsessed with relationships, it is the lens through which the world makes sense to me. For a long time the word relationship has been used as shorthand for a notable connection with something or someone; Upon which we editorialise and label the effect we feel it having on our lives, for example the difference between a loving relationship and a toxic one. The word relationship though, finds it’s roots in the word “relatus”, which means narration or a telling of events. This is how I see relationships, they are not solely an external third party created as a connection develops (whether positive or negative), they tell the story of us as individuals. They show us how we were taught & conditioned to show up in our formative years, how we willingly altered ourselves to keep those connections we wanted. How we show up for ourselves and others in the present day and how we will continue to do so in the future.

I prefer thinking about relationships first as a narrative and second as a term to refer to what we create with ourselves, other people and the habits/strategies we employ to navigate our lives. This is because bottom line, I believe it’s integral to any healthy & strong relationship that the parties involved can take ownership of their narrative. 

The longer we blame others for the quality of our connections, the longer we will spend cycling through repeated history. 

The key is getting really honest with ourselves. How willing am I to explore my part in what I am experiencing? What am I willing to take a stand for, regardless of how uncomfortable it may be?

The most important relationship (narrative) is the one we hold over ourselves.  As such, whether you want to expand into the unknown, overcome an obstacle, or increase your understanding of how your unconscious strategies define your reality, it all starts with one step, a step inward.